Nov 6, 2013 at 1:27 AM
Marriage, a business to destroy a girl!
By Sonahri Shaikh
2k11/MC/93
The concept of marriage is not just
choose a partner, get married, have kids, grow them up, get old and THE END.
Though the God prearranged marriages for
individuals to get married and give birth to the generation in form of NIKKAH. Marriage
is all about relation of love, care, feeling, compromises and respect. But what
we are doing?
We have made marriages a business. It
does not hurt the feelings of someone but also broken down their dreams too.
This problem has greatly increased in our society? The
modern tradition has taken people toward ignorance. A manner of finding bahu’s
is against of our moral values. People behaves like that they came to find out
a showpieces of perfect girl and have choice to reject them on their dislike.
Nobody willing to understand that girl is a
sensitive piece, how much bold she is badly broken in some places. Other bitter truth is that most of the girls,
who are waiting for their date to be fixed as quickly as possible where they taken
as a burden by their own family. If she gets a lot of love from their family so
she could not get away from the question of society. As any guest entered in to
home, their first question is “Shadi kab kar rae hain?” and what the parents
reply, “Nahi, bas dua karein”. And the discussion starts. Psychologically, these
conversations wounded girls very badly for that reason they tensed and worried on
such things in isolation.
About 59% of females in the world commit
suicide because of marriage problems. Besides, many girls take the wrong steps
because of this pressure; they do Love marriages, court marriages and break
down all boundaries to perform this task.
Parents lead their young daughters as soon as
they got to be married. By worst practices and difficult rules of our society
we make feel our daughter a burden in life. Girls tolerate and compromise so
many things for the sake of her family. She sacrifices at every stage of life like;
first priority is her parents, on next stage she take care everything of her husband
and last spend her life in raising her children.
Daughters are come to be blessing from God. So
awaken people and Let them live their lives. Let’s give her chance to prove
herself. Life is not dependable on marriage, it is dependable on dreams and
nature made girls a strongest element of earth, if she thinks positively!
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Marriage, a business to destroy a girl!
By Sonahri Shaikh
2k11/MC/93
The true
concept of marriage is not just choose a partner, get married, have kids, grow
them up, get old and THE END.
But, when
God felt that the two first humans on earth cannot survive without each other
even having all the essentials of life. So he ordered them to get married and
they give birth to the generations. Like this the concept of NIKKAH revealed.
Marriage is
all about loving, sharing, compromises and respect. But what we are doing? We
have made marriage a business. A business of hurting not only a female but her
parents and her dreams. Have you ever thought that why nowadays marriage
problems are increasing?
Because
demands of both sides of the parents are more valued then the couple I can call
these things a fashion. That changes every time according to the changing
nature of the people! A fashion of finding a perfect bahu. They go to girl’s home like they are going for shopping.
Finding a perfect piece of their choice, but if they can’t, they just reject.
But now
girl’s parents are also not left behind. They also demand for a perfect daamad. All these activities are the
main source to destroy or provoke a girl. This fact cannot be disbelieved that
girl is a sensitive piece, no matter how much bold she is, but at some steps
she gets sensitive. And that step would be her personal causes. Girl’s first
stage of mature dreaming is across her teen age. What parents do is that they
start teasing her. Even she is getting ready for a school, wearing uniform up
do her hair in front of mirror, she is teased for the husband. That is not even
known who would be him?
Think other
facts that those girl sitting at home, waiting for her date to be decided, are
thought to be as a burden for her parents. No matter how much love she receives
from her home. But her mind makes her feel a BURDEN. Because guests stepping
inside the home, ask first question “ shadi nahi hui?” and what the parents
reply, “ nahi, bas dua karein”. And the discussion starts. This affects her
negatively and psychologically too.
About 59% of
females in the world attempts suicide because of marriage problems. Those girls
stepping to the negativity, Love relationships etc are also the reason of
marriage problems.
Why? I want
to ask from the parents, that girl is sent here just to GET MARRIED?
Why we make
her feel that she is a burden? She is here to tolerate first parents then
husband and then child? God has declared a girl the most precious jewel of
father.
Grow up
people! Let her live her life. Let’s give her chance to prove herself. What if
she gets married and in the future she still treated same as she was before?
Life is not dependable on marriage. It is dependable on Dreams, a dream of
getting educated and a dream to step one step forward than a boy!
To me, Girl
is the strongest element on earth, if she walks POSITIVE!
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