Talat Hidayatullah Profile by Anam Shaikh

Mar 29, 2016 at 9:13 PM

Talat Hidayatullah
Profile by Anam Shaikh
BS – III  Roll no. MC/2k14/07
Edited by Mahira Majid
‘Positive thoughts can eliminate hurdles from pathway to the success: Talat Hidayatullah’
Some people have inborn vital and responsive energy that enables them to keep abreast of the times and to furnish their personality.
Talat Hidayatullah hailed from Tando Muhammad Khan, stepped into this world on 21st April, 1973. She has done matriculation from Government Girls High School and intermediate from Government Girls Degree College, Tando Muhammad Khan. She has done M.A (English) in 1998 and B.ED and M.ED in 2015, from Karachi University. She joined Fauji Foundation Higher Secondary School in 2005, as a teacher and now, she is Vice Principal there. Talat is full of life, passionate about her job paying her services vivaciously.
Talat has friendly attitude towards everyone. She has three brothers and three sisters. She says, “Our parents gave us all the comforts of life and always treated us like friends. We used to discuss and share our daily-life with each other.” She added, my brothers are like my buddies, we have strong bonding. Chatting with my nephews is my favorite pass time.
Her philosophy about life states, “Life is full of compromises, adjustments and just giving, giving and giving, especially for a female, everyone expects more from her, her father, brother and even her husband. It is not that they do not return but they expect more.
To be a business woman was her dream, but it was not fulfilled, still she says I am satisfied with my life. I think, to be a satisfied person, is better than to be a happy one because satisfaction is a real driving force and no one can be really happy unless he is satisfied. Sometimes, she gives quick reactions on certain situations and faces troubles however, she wants to change her habit.
Recently, she had a worst time of life when she lost her brother. When asked about most tragic thing ever happened to her, she replied when one of your loved ones leave this world and you accidentally lost them (suddenly tears fall from her eyes). She added we all know it is a part of life and one day, we all have to face it.
A well-dressed lady, with fresh smile on her face, speaks so gently. According to one of her family members, her best part is that, she finds positivity in life and never let negativity to ruin her objectives. She gets violent whenever sees injustice, even at home. Nahid, one of her coworkers said, Ma’am Talat is actually a cooperative and obliging person. She is always ready to help, she treats all the teachers equally. To her, all are equal.
Talat does not like such women who make themselves pitiful. She believes a real woman is one who face the world with her head held high. Her message for the women of our society is that a woman should be strong. She should be confident and able to stand up for her rights, she should not hide herself behind anyone’s back.



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Talat Hidayatullah
Profile
by  Anam Shaikh
BS – III    -  Roll no MC/2k14/07
‘’Everything will go smoothly, if there is a positive thinking: Talat Hidayatullah.’’

                Some people are born with vital and responsive energy. It not only enables them to keep abreast of the times; it qualifies them to furnish in their own personality.
          Talat Hidayatullah stepped into this world on 21st of April 1973. She belongs to Tando Muhammad Khan. She has three brothers and three sisters. She has done her matriculation from Government Girls High School . She passed intermediate from Government Girls Degree College Tando Muhammad Khan. She did B.B.A in 1996 and M.A in (English) in 1998 from Karachi University. Further she did B.ED and M.ED from Karachi University in 2015. She joined Fauji Foundation Higher Secondary school in 2005 as a teacher and now she is a vice principal of this institute.
         Talat is full of life, passionate about her job paying her services from last ten years and still doing it vivaciously. Her elder sister is her inspiration. She says, “Our parents gave us all the comforts of life and always treated us like friends. We used to discuss and share our everyday life.” She adds my brothers are like my buddies we have strong bonding.  Chatting with my nephews is my favorite pass time.
       When asked about her attitude towards religion she says, Religion is my faith, if there is faith there is everything, everything  starts from faith.
            Her philosophy of life, “Life is full of compromises, adjustments and just giving, giving and giving, specially, for girls/women everyone expects more from them, their father, brother and even their husbands, it’s not that they don’t return but they expect more.
        Her secret dream was to be a business woman but she says I am satisfied with my life. I think to be a satisfied person is better than to be a happy one because satisfaction is a real driving force and no one can be really happy unless he/she is satisfied.
           Recently, she had a worst time of life when she lost her brother. When asked about most tragic thing ever happened to her, she replied when one of your loved ones left this world and you accidentally (Suddenly a tear fall from her right eye). She adds we all know it’s a part of life and one day we all have to face it.
          This well dressed pleasing lady with fresh smile on her face speaks so gently. According to one of her family members her best part is that she sees positive sides of life even from negative ones. She gets violent whenever sees injustice, even at home. Nahid one of her coworkers says Ma’am Talat is actually a cooperative person. She is always ready to help, she treats all the teachers equally to her all are equal no one is superior or inferior.
           Her message for the women of our society is that a woman should be strong. She should believe in the woman who is able to stand up for her and believe in the woman who does not need to hide herself behind anyone’s back.  As a woman she should stand and deal with problems. Talat does not like such women who make themselves pitiful, she believes a real woman is that who face the world with her head held high.

Single parent

Edited by Rajesh Kumar

Article
Anam Shaikh
BS-III Roll number: 2K14/MC/07
                   Single parentA single parent is a parent without his partner. Death of a partner is the major reason of single parenting or it can also be the result of the parents that never marry each other, separation or divorce of a couple is also the reason of it.
  About 16% of children’s world widely are single parent. Single parenting is less common among Indians i.e. only 10%, Bangladeshis 12%, Pakistanis 13%, Chinese 15% and white people 22%. The 1980's United States census reported that 19.5% were single parent households. From 1980 to 2008, the percentage of lone parent increased to 29.5%. The increased ratio was due to the increase in births to unmarried women and by the increasing ratio of divorces among couples. 14% of all Australian households are single parent families and 17.8% of New Zealand. In United Kingdom, about one out of four families with dependent children are single parent families.
   The mother is considered as a primary nourisher of her child, that is why nine out of ten single parent families are headed by mothers only. Commonly fathers are less primary caregivers. The reason is that the father is working all the day resulting in less bonding with their children. In the absence, mother is considered more suitable for a child's care. The other reason is that most of the fathers remarry and restart their life.
  The main problem faced by single parents across the world is financial constraints. In a country like Pakistan, where jobs are hard to get, money issues can be a real problem. The burden of financial instability is not only limited to single mothers, but many fathers also worry to fulfil the children's needs in similar situations.
 In many countries, there is existence of social structures that support single parenting and offer financial assistance to those who are doing it. In US, there are government programs like HUD which is a national government agency that specializes in helping single mothers by providing their household needs. While in Pakistan, there are no such government policies for the welfare or support of single parents. Here every single parent has to do self-help to live.
  There is also single parenting appeared in rural Sindh in which both the parents live under the same roof. Fathers have only one target in life that is just to take rest and mothers have to do all the work and earn money to feed their children.
  Research has shown that lone parents suffer from the feelings of self-reproach for the deficiency of a complete father or mother figure in their children's lives. To overcome such guilty, a single parent plays both the role, the role of a father and role of a mother as well which leads the things to become more difficult. A single parent has to have four arms, four legs, two hearts and double the patience and love. There is nothing about single parent.
 In this world to live as a single parent specially a single mother is quite difficult as compared to other societies. Here a single mother not only has to raise the child alone but she also has to face taunting comments of people. People criticize the her as, she is the apple of all the discards.
  A single mother spends her life for her children. Her children become her first priority. She places herself on number two, sacrifices all the feelings and try to fulfil the needs of her children at any cost. She fights for them, bears all the problems alone and in return she just wants her children to respect her and understand that how tough her life is with all the hardships and troubles.
   Madam Shamim, a retired teacher, separated from her husband due to some clashes between them. She says 'life has its ups and downs, no matter where we stand. All we have to do is to stay firm, set our targets and stick to them unless we achieve by neglecting all the hurdles which come in our path. Most important thing is to create a bond between you and your child'.
 Rukhsana Qureshi, a widow with a son who lives in a joint family of her brother. She says “Though I live in my brother's house but still I have to deal with negativity. I did not have to face financial problems. I am a self-made person. I provide all the facilities to my son who is a teenager and this stage of life hangs between maturity and immaturity. I have to deal with him patiently and sometimes aggressively. Yes, it is a really difficult time but I know God is with me and He will help me to get through this. One day my son will be an example for all to see'. She added single parents should make their children realize that family with both the parents is not always a happy one. His feelings hurt whenever he sees his cousins spending quality time with their fathers and women with their husband. What else, we can do other than just living the life and facing the challenges of it.”
  There are so many single parents living a miserable yet a strong life is to keep their children happy and make them live a contented life. Instead of criticizing them, our society should encourage and consider them the equally as a part of our society. 

The writing skill work was carried under supervision of SIr Sohail Sangi, at Department of Mass Communication University of Sindh

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Anam Shaikh
BS-III Roll number: 2K14/MC/07
                   Single parentA single parent or a lone parent is a parent not with a spouse. Death of a partner is the major reason of single parenting or it can also be the result of either separation or divorce of a couple or it can result from the parents that never marry each other.
  About 16% of children worldwide are brought by single parent. Single parent are less common among Indians i.e. only 10%, Bangladeshis 12%, Pakistanis 13%, Chinese 15% and white people 22%. The 1980's United States census reported that 19.5% were single parent households. From 1980 to 2008, the percentage of lone parent households jumped to 29.5%. The jump was caused by an increase in births to unmarried women and by the increasing ratio of divorces among couples. 14% of all Australian households are single parent families and 17.8% of Newzealand. In United Kingdom, about one out of four families with dependent children are single parent families.
   The mother is considered as a primary caregiver of her child, that is why nine out of ten single parent families are headed by mothers only. Fathers are less commonly primary caregivers. The reason is that the father is working all the day resulting in less bonding with their children. While the father works, the mother is considered more suitable for a child's care. The other reason is that most of the fathers remarry and restart their life.
  The main problem faced by single parents across the world is financial constraints. In a country like Pakistan, where jobs are hard to come by, money issues can be a real problem. The burden of financial instability is not only limited to single mothers, infact, many fathers also worry to fulfil the children's needs in similar situations.
 In many countries, there exist social structures that support single parenting and offer financial assistance to those who are doing it. In US, there are government programs like HUD which is a national government agency that specializes in helping single mothers by providing their household needs. While in Pakistan, there are no such government policies for the welfare or support of single parents. Here every single parent has to do self help to dwell.
  There is another type of single parenting appeared in rural Sindh in which both the parents live under the same roof yet living as strangers to each other. Fathers mostly have only one target in life that is just to take rest and mothers have to do all the works and earn money to feed their children.
  Researches have shown that lone parents suffer from the feelings of self-reproach  for the deficiency of a complete father/mother figure in their children's lives. To overcome such guilt, a single parent plays both the role, the role of a father and role of a mother as well which leads the things to become twice difficult. A single parent has to have four arms, four legs, two hearts and double the patience and love. There is nothing single about single parent.
 In our part of world to live as a single parent specially a single mother is quite difficult as compared to other societies. Here a single mother not only has to raise the child alone but she also has to face taunting comments of people. People criticise the single mother as if she is the apple of all the discards.
  A single mother devotes her life for her children. Her children become her first priority. She places herself on number two, sacrifices all her feelings and try to fulfil the needs of her children at any cost. She fights for them, bears all the problems alone and in return she just wants her children to respect her and understand that how tough her life is with all the hardships and troubles.
   Madam Shamim, a retired teacher, separated from her husband due to some clashes between them. She says 'life has its ups and downs no matter where we stand. All we have to do is to stay firm, set our targets and stick to them unless we achieve by neglecting all the hurdles which come in our path. Most important thing is to create a bond between you and your child'.
 Rukhsana Qureshi, a widow with a son who lives in a joint family of her brother. She says 'Though I live in my brother's house but still I have to deal with negativity. I did not have to face financial problems. I am a self made person. I provide all the facilities to my son who is a teenager and this stage of life hangs between maturity and immaturity. I have to deal with him patiently and sometimes aggressively.Yes, it is a really difficult time but I know God is with me and He will help me to get through this. One day my son will be an example for all to see'. She adds 'single parents should make their children realize that family with both the parents is not always a happy one. His feelings hurt whenever he sees his cousins spending quality time with their fathers and so do mine whenever I see women with their husband. What else we can do other than just living the life and facing its challenge.'
  There are so many single parents living a miserable yet a strong life to keep their children happy and make them live a contented life. Instead of crticizing them, our society should encourage them and consider them the equally as a part of our society. 

The writing skill work was carried under supervision of SIr Sohail Sangi, at Department of Mass Communication University of Sindh